I'm torn between my own desire for lasting relationship bliss and my desire to preserve the most important friendship in my life. —Something Has to Give Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Your friend is going to be hurt. When you made the choice to start hanging out with your best friend’s ex without telling her, that’s when you made the decision to hide your actions, and possibly your feelings, from her.
On some level you must have known that she would be bothered by it, and you chose not to tell her.
My best friend and I have been besties since the fourth grade. She was with this guy for four years, up until early May of this year, when he suddenly decided to break up with her. I started hanging out with him about two weeks later, at first thinking I was just being someone to talk to.
The world is divided into two groups of people: those who think it's OK to date a friend's ex and those who believe it's completely off-limits.
When you and your friend are both in the "OK" camp, it can work if they date your ex, or you theirs.
A years ago she told him she wasn't in love with him anymore and they split. He's a very handsome guy, he's also well fit in every way, he's hardworking, active, funny and a great lover and wonderful man in every way.
That's why I don't understand why she was giving up on him.